Jon's Blog

Love is Thoughtful.  Have you thought about your spouse today?  Have you thought about your relationship?  Have you thought about your relationship with God lately?  Do you view yourself as thoughtful?

Compare yourself now, back to yourself when you were trying to woo your spouse.  Were you thoughtful then?  What's different?  Are you the same?

I find it very interesting that my posting of this falls on my wife's birthday and I find the very words that I am writing very convicting.  In all honesty is quite hard to write this one today, but I know that if I don't write this today, I might just stop writing these.  I don't know if anyone reads these, or even cares, but to me I find that writing these and getting into the word a little bit, might get me a jump start back to where I want to be.

I apologize for digressing from the topic, but today is just a very different day for me.  In someways I feel that Satan is trying to pull me closer and closer away from God as I am trying to get closer and closer to God.  So, I must pull through this.  I mention this because the topic at hand is Thoughtful.

Each foot hold the devil gets, is one less foot hold we all have on getting to where we are going.  This can be your relationship with your spouse or with God.

Psalm 139:17-18
NLT - "How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can’t even count them; they outnumber the grains of sand!  And when I wake up, you are still with me!
NASB - "How precious also are Your thoughts to me, O God!  How vast is the sum of them!  If I should count them, they would outnumber the sand.  When I awake, I am still with You."

It took me quite a while to really understand what these words were saying.  But read the words carefully.  God is thinking about you ALWAYS.  His thoughts of you cannot be numbered.  The thoughts outnumber the grains of sand.  No matter when we wake up, God is always there with us. 

WOW!  If God is thinking about us ALWAYS, it is really hard to imagine the level of Love that God has for us isn't it?  

Think way back to when you were wooing your spouse.  You thought about your soon to be spouse all the time didn't you?  You thought about them when you were awake, and you probably even had dreams about them.  No fast forward to right this second.  Are you thinking about your spouse?  Are you only thinking about them, because you are reading these words and getting you to think about your spouse and how much you actually think about them?

This is really hard for me because I feel that I have lost this thoughtfulness that I once had for my wife.  I love my wife beyond what words can say.  But, I wonder, why cannot I not match up to the thoughtfulness I once had?  Is it because of money?  No, because thoughtfulness doesn't always require money.  Is it time?  No, because if I can find time to write this blog, I surely can find time to do something thoughtful for my wife.  Is it energy?  No, because if I can find the energy in my day to even straighten up one thing at home, surely I can find a shred of energy to devote to my wife.  

Then what is it?  I think it is in our nature to devote time, money and energy into our newly found relationship, but once we do and we become married, we find that money, time, and energy for some reason escapes us.  But, does it?  I don't believe it does.  I think we as a society have become inundated with so many things in our life that we lose sight of one of the most critical people in our lives, our spouse.  

Think about how much time you spend, "wasting time."  Let me put it into perspective.  Do you do any of these things on a regular basis?  I know I do!  Playing on your smartphone, surfing the internet, playing on your tablet/ipad, finding yourself distancing yourself from your spouse to avoid confrontation, finding ways to stay "busy" to avoid something, procrastinating on any task, etc...  Me personally, I find myself saying yes to more than one item on this list.  

So, what does this say about Love.  Does it meant that you don't love your spouse?  No.  I think that it means that you need to become aware of these time wasters and attention sucking items and remove them.  God is thinking about you ALWAYS.  Are you thinking about your spouse ALWAYS?  Is there something thoughtful that you can do for your spouse that they might not be expecting?  When was the last thing you did something thoughtful for your spouse?

Love as I am learning is something that is never meant to be completely mastered.  If God wanted us to completely master the art of Love, then he would never have allowed Eve to deceive Adam, or never allow the snake to deceive Eve.  For if we were perfect in Love, then our lives would be perfect.  

So, as I conclude a blog full of questions, I want to leave you with these thoughts.  God loves you more than you could ever count.  If God loves us this much, do we love God back the same amount?  If God is an integral part of your marriage, do you love your spouse as much as God loves you?  

Thoughtfulness is something that we have in the beginning of our relationship, but I feel digresses as we go on in live.  Be it laziness, or some other reason.  I think overall we just get comfortable in that relationship, and this comfort is a large part of problems that can hinder many a relationships.

Take the thoughtfulness you had when you first met your now spouse, and use it to grow your love for your wife in a new way.  

I leave you today with words from one of my favorite movies, "the key to a women's heart, is an unexpected gift at an unexpected time."  

Thoughtfulness dies away every second we are alive.  Don't lose it.

What will you do that is unexpected?